Language can reveal a person the most, so speaking skills can be said to be a person’s trump card, to some extent, directly determining the impression others have of you.
Speaking skills are not limited to mastery, so you only need to master some basic skills to become a “good speaker” and thrive in society. Below are 5 of the most practical speaking skills that are suitable for everyone.
Firstly, do not rush to express your own opinions, listen more
The selfishness of human nature is not only reflected in interests, but also in conversations. Many people, when chatting, want to say more and let others listen to them.
In fact, when chatting with others, it is not necessary to say more in order to build closer relationships. We can do the opposite.
I want to play the role of a listener, listen to others more and don’t rush to express my own opinions.
The more we listen, the more information we understand, and the more our words can resonate with others’ hearts.
Secondly, do not deny the other party, first acknowledge them
When chatting with others, although we need to listen more, we also need to say something.
After the other person has finished speaking, we remember one thing: do not deny any of their viewpoints, even if they do not agree or acknowledge them. Do not immediately deny them.
We can say, “Your idea is very interesting. That’s what I think. Do you see any difference
Not directly denying the other party, but directing the topic towards oneself.
Avoid getting entangled in the correctness of the other party’s viewpoint, as the more entangled it is, the easier it is to create conflicts.
Thirdly, bury the topic within the conversation
Since we want to continue chatting with the other person, we need to do something ourselves during the conversation and find a new entry point in their words.
At the same time, embed expandable topics in our own words.
How to do it? for instance.
Chatting with a girl: I don’t want to eat takeout tonight. I cooked three dishes myself and I’ll show you a picture for you to review.
This has planted at least three topics.
Why eat takeout? Can a man cook? Is the taste of cooking good? This way, the other party is highly likely to continue chatting along these three topics.
Burying the topic is actually expanding the direction of the topic and handing it over to the other party, allowing them to continue chatting without knowing if they are in a hurry to find a topic.
To avoid awkward situations where the other party cannot continue the conversation when we choose the topic ourselves.
Fourthly, follow the other person’s interests to find topics and observe their reactions before making a dish
As we all know when chatting with friends, if the other person is unhappy about a topic and we continue to chat with them, it’s not just chatting, but seeking death.
Therefore, after finding a topic, chat first to see how interested the other person is, whether they are enthusiastic or indifferent.
We will decide whether to continue or switch to an open-ended topic and bury another one to steer the conversation away.
After all, the purpose of chatting with each other is to make each other happy, not to find something to do for nothing.
At any time, a person who can speak can establish a good emotional foundation with those around them.
Master the above speaking skills, learn and apply them flexibly, and you will definitely be able to do it in any situation